Wife Wants a Divorce
This video by therapist Abe Kass gives five steps for men to take if their wife wants a divorce, with the goal of improving the relationship and increasing the likelihood of her wanting to stay. Here’s a breakdown of the steps:
- Stop ALL bad behavior: Start by asking your partner what makes her unhappy and listen carefully to understand her experience. Avoid defending yourself or getting angry when she shares her feelings. Take action to correct any harmful behaviors, such as reading self-help materials or seeking professional help.
- Apologize: After understanding her hurt, offer a genuine apology. Even if you don’t agree with everything, acknowledge her pain and validate her feelings. This shows you care about how she feels, regardless of your intentions.
- Stop all expressions of anger: Anger damages relationships. Stay calm and respectful, even if you disagree with her. If anger is an issue, consider anger management resources, like the audiobook suggested in the video, to help you stay in control.
- Court your wife or girlfriend: Courtship shouldn’t stop after you move in together. Rekindle the romance by doing activities that brought you together, or try new ones. Continued effort in courtship is key to maintaining a loving and lasting relationship.
- Being in a relationship is voluntary: Your partner will stay with you if you’re pleasant to be around, not just physically but emotionally. Being kind, generous, and cooperative makes you emotionally attractive, which is vital for keeping the relationship strong and healthy.
These steps focus on improving emotional connection and personal growth to increase the chances of the relationship surviving and thriving. Gain additional insights in the Your Wife Wants a Divice 5 Tips to get her back article.
