How To Fix A Broken Marriage or Committed Relationship
Relationship mistakes damage your relationship. Learn to heal, reconcile, and fix a broken marriage or committed relationship caused by past mistakes.
Marriage or committed relationship repair is occasionally necessary even in the most successful relationships. Just as healthy people occasionally get sick. So too, good marriages and committed relationships sometimes ‘get sick’ and need healing.
Everyone, including you and me, makes mistakes. Sometimes these mistakes are small and sometimes they are catastrophic.
When a mistake is big and has severely hurt your partner, it is necessary to engage in a formal process of healing. Without this healing, relationship wounds can, so to speak, become infected and spread to all areas of your relationship. When this happens, it becomes much more difficult to correct the initial problem and all the additional problems caused by inaction.
The following is a guideline to help you and your partner recover from serious relationship mistakes that threaten the well-being and longevity of your marriage or committed relationship.
Examples of serious relationship mistakes:
- Intense anger expressions directed at your partner or children
- Ignoring or neglecting your partner
- Not financially contributing to the family
- Contributing to a sexless marriage or committed relationship
- Being a substance abuser
- Irresponsible gambling
- Infidelity
- Abuse
Making amends for past relationship mistakes not only contributes to repair and reconciliation but also reduces the likelihood of future mistakes.
Note: If these ‘relationship mistakes’ are still occurring, it is not possible to make amends. Genuine regret and remorse cannot be sincere if the bad behavior is still occurring.
Certainly, you may regret that the bad behavior is continuing and that your partner is being hurt. However, your partner cannot be expected to forgive you or take your feelings of remorse seriously if the bad behavior is still present.
Complete and effective relationship repair and reconciliation can only occur when the bad behavior is in the past and it remains there. Should this be difficult to achieve, it is recommended that the offender get outside help to assist in stopping all manifestations of the destructive relationship mistakes.
Once the hurtful and offensive behavior has ceased, the offender can then approach his or her partner to work toward repair, reconciliation, and forgiveness.
