Couples Intimacy Activities to Increase Sexual Desire

What is Intimacy?

Knowing your partner’s body, emotions, intellect, or spirituality, is intimacy. Couples that have achieved intimacy have deep conversations, are committed, willing to sacrifice for one another and treat each other with respect, care, and unconditional love.

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There are understandable reasons why you may not want to have sex with your partner.

Many things will reduce your sex drive for sexual intimacy. For example, conflict in your relationship, exhaustion, stress, and lack of physical attraction for your partner.

Even though you may be upset, stressed, or mad at your partner, having sex with them will likely help you become more centered, energized, and hopeful for the future.

Giving sexual pleasure to your partner and permitting them to do the same with you may actually help solve some other conflicts in your relationship. Sex with your partner, even when you are not excited to do so, will certainly prevent you from creating an additional problem, an unhealthy sexless relationship lacking sexual intimacy. And the dangers of sexless marriage are many!

Sex is like the opposite poles of a magnet. Even when the polls are not touching, they are still looking to pull together. The same is true in a healthy relationship. Your sexual energies should seek to pull together, even when you are apart. Sexual energy must keep the two of you interested in one another. Without sexual passion, your marriage or committed relationship will become stale, cold, and lifeless, and perhaps even unwanted! In a healthy marriage, ‘sex’ should permeate all aspects of your relationship!

Men are More Sexually Driven Than Women

Men often initiate the first steps of the romantic dance. Research has shown that, overall, men are more sexually driven than women and more easily aroused.

Why Couples Don’t Have Sex

Many women do not realize how rejected a man feels when he indicates he’s in the mood for sex and she tells him she is not in the mood. As well, many men do not understand how a woman needs romance and good communication to be in the mood for sex. When men feel rejected, and women don’t feel romanced, sex is avoided.

Intimacy Activities for Couples will Deepen Your Connection

Intimacy in marriage or a committed relationship begins with the mind. How you think about your partner and they about you will determine whether your sex is good or otherwise. Long-term relationships create the perfect opportunity to extract maximum sexual satisfaction.

Knowing what ‘turns you on’ and what ‘turns your partner on’ is essential information for a satisfying and loving sexual relationship.

You need to know how to approach your partner, how to share your sexual needs, feelings, and sensitivities, and how to overcome sexual difficulties should they arise.

The following couples therapy exercises will give you the knowledge, skills, and expectations that will contribute to a healthy, satisfying, and mutually enjoyable sexual relationship.

Additional Reading

For women: 6 Truths About Men and Sex 

For men: The Benefits of a Healthy Sex Life 

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