Should You Forgive a Cheating Partner?

Has your partner who cheated ended all deliberate contact with his or her illegitimate partner?

Does your partner who cheated stay calm when you want to discuss details about the affair?

Does your partner who cheated recognize that it is his or her responsibility to enforce zero contact with the person he or she cheated with?

Does your partner who cheated ‘tell the truth’ about the affair and its details?

Does your partner who cheated avoid getting angry and is empathetic when you have strong emotional reactions to having been betrayed?

Has your partner who cheated apologized for what he or she has done?

Is your partner who cheated willing to alter his or her job or lifestyle to make you more secure that the affair is over?

Is your partner who cheated remorseful?

Does your partner who cheated take full responsibility for the affair and not blame you for his or her bad behavior?

Does your partner who cheated seek to lessen the pain he or she has caused you?

Does your partner who cheated take 100% responsibility for his or her decision to cheat?

Is your partner who cheated patient as you ‘work through’ the pain he or she has caused you?

Does your partner who cheated support you in your efforts to confirm the affair has fully ended?

Does your partner give you his or her time to discuss your thoughts and feelings about the affair?

If needed, does your partner agree to get outside help to assist in the recovery from the affair that he or she had?