Are you an abuser? The answer to this question depends on two criteria, the intent of your bad behavior and the type of bad behavior you use. To answer the question, “Am I an abuser?” take the Abusive Intent and Abusive Behavior Quizzes.
Recognizing the abusive intent and type of abusive bad behaviors in yourself is crucial to answering the question, “Am I an abuser?”
If the answer is yes, seek help and make the necessary changes withing yourself to create a healthier and non-abusive relationship. Acknowledging and addressing any harmful intent and behavior is essential to prevent further harm to your partner and other family members living within your household, such as your children.
Profile of an Abuser
- You think you are Smarter than your partner (more educated, more religious, etc.)
- You think you are Stronger than your partner (emotionally or physically)
- You think you are More privileged than your partner (has more money, comes from a better family, has a better job, etc.)
- You think you are More aggressive than your partner and thus have the right to control your partner (“might-makes-right”)
- If your are a man, do you believe you have gender-based rights and think society or religion gives you the right to control your partner?
- Do you uses these false arguments and gaslighting to justify your actions to hurt and control your partner?
Abuse is identified primarily by the sustained effort to force another person to abandon their freewill and comply with the abuser’s wishes.